To Be Continued: The Dating Game (TV Series 1970–81)

It’s not the first time that I’ve written about dating—or any subject really, for that matter. (See some of my previous posts: 10 Ways to Make Yourself More Vibrant and What’s on Your Relationship To Do List Right Now?) When I started writing about the world of dating, my efforts to simplify it helped me realize that there is no magic formula or simple list of steps to get you from A to B. Elegant, common-sense tips like these help. They’re universal, and they give you the opportunity to be yourself while getting to know someone. If you follow the tips outlined below, you should be able to find what you’re looking for. Ok, time to break it down into the most simple terms I know: Dates. Plans. And hot dates, baby. Dates Everybody has one of those awful, oh-my-God-I’m-going-to-hell-for-sure dates. The ones that set off every single fear you have of falling for the wrong person. You know the kind of dates, the ones that end in a disastrously awkward breakup and drinking games. Unfortunately, though you can’t avoid them entirely, you can take some precautions to make sure they don’t happen to you. Here are 10 simple tips to make sure that you don’t go on one of those dates that will turn into something you aren’t going to be able to forget any time soon. First, get friends (or coworkers) to set up dates with you. Having someone in your corner who will be objective and supportive is an enormous advantage. Having a friend help you navigate a potential disaster is very valuable to your mental health. Second, pick the location carefully. If your location is the killer in your date scenario (as most of them are), try to pick somewhere neutral—a bar, a coffee shop, a restaurant, etc.—that’s not too quiet. Third, it’s time to get dressed. You don’t have to be perfect, you don’t have to be a Saved By the Bell reject, and you don’t have to get dolled up. Just be comfortable and try to dress yourself in a way that you feel good in. The outfit doesn’t have to be something special, but you don’t have to be in a grunge-rock-band-dude-tuxedo-type look either. Don’t go for a look that’s
And, hey, even if you’re just doing it for fun, you’ll probably learn a thing or two about what it’s like to be on a date—especially if you’re a woman. After all, there’s not a lot that prepares you for that first date. Most women just hope for the best, although some will pretend to be an expert before their first date to make the worst of it go better. We’ve broken down everything you need to know in this guide. If you’ve already gone on your first date, let us know in the comments what you learned, or if you just want to share what not to do. The Psychology of Dating Going on a date is a simple task, but getting there can be a daunting one. Sticking around and waiting for that first date to go through is the worst part. How do you know if you’re gonna like this person? You are soooo vulnerable! You’re just gonna talk about your sordid pasts with your parents or whatever else, and he or she is going to think you’re a jerk or a tease. That goes through your mind, doesn’t it? You have all this potential… then they reject you. That probably sucks. But you didn’t just come to this date hoping for a relationship. If you’re just trying to get laid, it’s a different thing. Then you can say something like, “I’m a stripper.” Or, “I’m a party hostess.” Something like that. Because you’re not going to be offended if he or she says, “That’s cool. I like to go to parties.” Obviously, you’re not going to be doing that. If you’re looking for love, you’re entering a very different realm of personality testing. Maybe you’re attracted to them, maybe you’re not. Maybe you’re a little sure of yourself, maybe you’re not. Maybe you’re out with your buddies and you’re asking yourself, “Am I really doing this? I’m going to a date.” Maybe you tell yourself you’re fine with any guy, or maybe you just want someone to hang out with. Then you show up and all you can think is, “How am I going to get out of this? Is this the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with? What am I doing here?” But if it is love you’re looking for, let’s be honest: You want it